I have a huge house that is totally too big for my son, daughter and myself. I used to love coming home and just looking around me thinking how wonderfully lucky I was to have a house like this over my head.
Now that I’m separated I look at the house and say “I’m stuck with you and can’t wait to get out”. In the law of attraction this is the worst thing I can do because the negativity breeds negativity. So I have to stop and try and see the POTENTIAL in the place.
For the first time in my life I started gardening. I didn’t like what my back yard looked like and decided that colour and strong plants were needed to invigorate me. I have been blown away by my son who saw a picture that I drew of my vision for certain areas of the back garden and so far he’s made most of it come true. He dug up down one fence line and in the back corner created a stone fence where he has since filled it with lots of dirt.
After this I have been checking out markets and cheap nurseries claiming so many wonderful and unusual plants and making the garden look more like a garden that I would enjoy being in . As a first time gardener I didn’t think it was possible to enjoy this kind of thing but I have enjoyed it immensely and plan on bringing a lemon tree to life after years of always wanting one.
I have also started on the front garden and again with my son’s help we’ve pulled out so many overgrown shrubs and weeds and I’ve been able to start a row of small bushes to make it all more inviting.
But then I walk inside and I lose it all over again. The house has been painted inside, my husband arranged (along with a few little things that I never picked up on before he left) but that’s about all and while I can go out and buy a vase to put flowers in or a small selection of nic nacs I really cannot afford to do any major changes to the house and I believe that when I have to sell it it’s not going to sell well because it needs updating.
To start – I have dark blue carpet in my bedroom – only in my bedroom. It’s not your normal navy blue it’s fluorescent blue and while the room was painted blue in the early days it’s now white and yet it still looks blue. I want to change the carpet but hey! I’ve worked out that just in my room alone it would cost close to $1,000. Money I obviously don’t have right now.
Moving on – my bathroom is white and pale blue. Nothing major really but the toilet and shower don’t match the sink and spa bath. Personally putting a spa bath in an ensuite was a stupid idea but I didn’t put it there so I can’t change that.
The second bathroom is peach. Yes peach as it awful pink and no one has had a peach bathroom since the 80’s. To change this I would have to renovate the entire room.
Both toilets have seen better days and frankly that’s all I’m going to say about them since I’m sure there are alot of people out there who have tried to clean old toilets.
My kitchen is reasonably well stocked and looks rather nice but the cabinets and doors are made of laminate and it’s grey with a little design kink. We’ve already changed all the door handles but now it’s time for an upgrade of the facial features and again that will cost money.
All bedrooms are reasonable sizes and both children have double beds in each but then the wardrobes have opening doors rather than sliding doors so space is another issue.
What do I want to do? I want to put sliding doors in all the bedrooms, change both bathrooms to white and update. Update the features in the kitchen and get new taps etc. I want curtains on all the windows instead of vertical blinds and I want to update some of the furniture and just appreciate the house in the 21st century.
Not a lot to ask and really if I have another three years in this house I think I can manage it but where to start? Do I contact a plumber for the new toilets and will he be able to do my bathrooms or do I have to call in someone else to do that? If I want new features in the kitchen do I call a kitchen specialist or can I find a handyman who can get the wood, cut it to specifications and paint it to fit my tastes?
It’s hard to just make changes because there’s no where to call and say “Hey, I need new carpet in one room of my house, it’s this size, can you send someone around with the cheapest carpet and how much will it cost to put it in?” type of person.
Once I get my head around the little things it’s the bigger things that have me pulling my hair out. BUT when the time comes for this house to be sold I plan on having a great deal of the work done and when it comes time to splitting the sale money between my ex and me? I’ll be taking the bulk of it and making a life for myself that doesn’t include worrying about what HE thought of my changes.