Is Romance dying or being killed off?

I am a huge romantic.  No one can compare to me when it come to romance but it’s the romance of old.  The art of talking, having a quiet dinner and most of all hand holding.  But it’s obviously dying out.  

I am a people watcher.  I love to watch people out in the streets and for the last couple of years I’ve noticed that people don’t hold hands.  Touching in public is also a no go so it seems.  What happened?

Just the other day I picked up a Mills & Boon book, one of many and the girl in the book told the man that she didn’t like holding hands.  Her last boyfriend would always reach out and hold her hand at “inappropriate times”.  What is inappropriate?  Standing at a shop window looking in?  Walking along the street?  Sitting at a table in a restaurant (Ok if she was trying to eat with a knife and fork then yes this would be inappropriate) but the fact that this was brought up in a romance novel seriously blows me a way.

There are so many parts to romance, private candlelight dinners, maybe a weekend away at a hotel, a picnic but to get to all these place you need to appreciate the person you are with and I think hand holding is as personal as you can get.   A guy can hold your hand in both hands.  Rub his thumb over your hand as you are sitting together just having a coffee – it’s very sensual.

What is also interesting is the way in which people do hold hands and what it tells you.  If the guy holds the hands in front then he’s in control – he’s the one who is the dominant of the two.  If a woman holds hands from the front then the guy is immature and submissive. You think I’m lying?  Check it out.  You can tell by body language.  (These pictures attached are men in front).  I’ve studied this for years and nine times out of ten I have been right.

Girls/women who have their hands in front are more likely to be the dominant ones in this relationship and in certain circumstances that relationship will not work.

Being romantic doesn’t mean you have to spend any money – just spending time with someone is a wonderful gesture but don’t give up all the perks that go with a relationship, like touching – it makes a big difference in the end.

SIDE NOTE: On Thursday I was travelling to work and there standing on a street corner was an old age couple (probably in their 70’s) and guess what?  They were holding hands.  It made me smile.

 

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I am having the best time of my life. I'm 50 plus, divorced, two grown children and just the opportunity to have a life after so many years of scrimping and saving is well worth the time it took to get here. I have a fantastic family with great family values and spending time alone is certainly something I enjoy which a lot of people find difficult to handle. I was born and raised in Melbourne, Victoria, Australia and cannot imagine living anywhere else. Strangely I don't like to travel and have no plans to do that in the future - I say strangely because so many people can't understand this, wanting to travel and experience other cultures - not on my agenda. What do I want to do? I have my new house and am enjoying making it my own but now I am looking for the right job for me after 10 years of being "just a receptionist". I don't want to be "JUST" anything anymore. I would like a job that helps me grow personally, something that encourages me to learn but also where I can be creative and people appreciate me. I want, I want, I want but really I need to know that I am comfortable in my own skin and my life means something to me. My motto is ... "People may forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel" I've had many people who I can't even remember their names tell me that I made them feel good and for that I am truly grateful. I have become an avid reader of Rhonda Byrne's 'THE SECRET', "THE POWER" & now 'THE MAGIC". Whether you believe or think it's a load of @#$!@ - I do know that it works for me and my life and I am all the better for it. You can't go wrong when you just learn to say "thank you".
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