I am a huge romantic. No one can compare to me when it come to romance but it’s the romance of old. The art of talking, having a quiet dinner and most of all hand holding. But it’s obviously dying out.
I am a people watcher. I love to watch people out in the streets and for the last couple of years I’ve noticed that people don’t hold hands. Touching in public is also a no go so it seems. What happened?
Just the other day I picked up a Mills & Boon book, one of many and the girl in the book told the man that she didn’t like holding hands. Her last boyfriend would always reach out and hold her hand at “inappropriate times”. What is inappropriate? Standing at a shop window looking in? Walking along the street? Sitting at a table in a restaurant (Ok if she was trying to eat with a knife and fork then yes this would be inappropriate) but the fact that this was brought up in a romance novel seriously blows me a way.
There are so many parts to romance, private candlelight dinners, maybe a weekend away at a hotel, a picnic but to get to all these place you need to appreciate the person you are with and I think hand holding is as personal as you can get. A guy can hold your hand in both hands. Rub his thumb over your hand as you are sitting together just having a coffee – it’s very sensual.
What is also interesting is the way in which people do hold hands and what it tells you. If the guy holds the hands in front then he’s in control – he’s the one who is the dominant of the two. If a woman holds hands from the front then the guy is immature and submissive. You think I’m lying? Check it out. You can tell by body language. (These pictures attached are men in front). I’ve studied this for years and nine times out of ten I have been right.
Being romantic doesn’t mean you have to spend any money – just spending time with someone is a wonderful gesture but don’t give up all the perks that go with a relationship, like touching – it makes a big difference in the end.
SIDE NOTE: On Thursday I was travelling to work and there standing on a street corner was an old age couple (probably in their 70’s) and guess what? They were holding hands. It made me smile.