Separation and extended families

My husband and I have been separated for 9 months – it’s gone fast and frankly haven’t missed him at all. Sure you think about things but nothing to say that I’d ever want him back.

BUT! Today I got a phone call from his “Auntie” (his deceased mother’s best friend) and I answered the phone, she said my name and then burst into tears.

One of the reasons I don’t tell people I’m separated is because I don’t want them saying “I’m sorry” and feeling that the world has come to an end for me. Because my life is just beginning again and I’m thoroughly enjoying the freedom of not having to be on guard at all times any more.

So what do you say to the extended family when they ring. “Don’t you dare worry about me, I’m fantastic!” That’s exactly what I said. I told her that we were going in two different directions, that we were comfortable with our lives but obviously he wasn’t and that he wasn’t a great dad or husband but he was and still is a very good provider.

I have my own feelings about the guy but hey, it takes two to make a marriage and I “settled” so I am just as much to blame. No blame is not the right word. We grew up and grew apart. That’s all.

The funniest thing was that Auntie Pitsa asked “IF? If he was to come back….” and my answer was plain and simple. I’d let him in, let him sleep in the spare room as it still technically partly his house and then I’d tell him I’m on my way out, you look after the dog.

There is just no way I would take him back. He disappointed me in ways I couldn’t imagine but I’d never leave him homeless.

So I think that phone call showed me that I have come out of this quite well and good luck to him in his new life with his new lady and her kids – I just hope he doesn’t try and control them as he did my kids and me, otherwise he will be on my doorstep wanting a room sooner than later.

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I am having the best time of my life. I'm 50 plus, divorced, two grown children and just the opportunity to have a life after so many years of scrimping and saving is well worth the time it took to get here. I have a fantastic family with great family values and spending time alone is certainly something I enjoy which a lot of people find difficult to handle. I was born and raised in Melbourne, Victoria, Australia and cannot imagine living anywhere else. Strangely I don't like to travel and have no plans to do that in the future - I say strangely because so many people can't understand this, wanting to travel and experience other cultures - not on my agenda. I love to write and writing romance keeps me from going completely mad. I have found a job that I absolutely love and there are times it affords me time to type out my stories since I write all my stories by hand - I'm never without a pen or book. My motto is ... "People may forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel" I've had many people who I can't even remember their names tell me that I made them feel good and for that I am truly grateful. I have become an avid reader of Rhonda Byrne's 'THE SECRET', "THE POWER" & now 'THE MAGIC". Whether you believe or think it's a load of @#$!@ - I do know that it works for me and my life and I am all the better for it. The Law of Attraction is something very close to my heart and I can honestly say with certainty that it works for me. I am truly grateful for the life I have been given and continue to enjoy. You can't go wrong when you just learn to say "thank you".
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